On May 29th, an article I penned was published about the Sebastian Florida female whose family, father-Steve Hunt Jr and mother-Kelley Hunt Smith, created a Facebook page titled “Free Kate”. This story has captured headline news spots. The premise behind the page and why Kate needs freeing is truly a contorted path. When I wrote my article, there were conflicting accounts of the ages of the girls involved. I personally, still have more questions than answers.
The longer this tale is spun, the more convoluted the story. As outlined at supporthonesty.net, Kate turned 18 prior to the start of school on August 14, 2012. Hunt’s family claims she was 17 when the relationship started. If the dates are correct, i.e., her birthday, the start of school, and when the relationship started, there is no possible way for Kate to have been 17 at the beginning of school, much less when the girls started “dating”.
That brings up another issue. Dating. The Hunt’s present a vague tale in which their daughter and the Smith’s daughter were “dating”, or “in a relationship”, however you wish to call it. From the accounts which have been made public, the young women were not dating. Not dating as I define it. Probably not what anyone over the age of 21 would define as dating.
Merriam-Webster defines it as “an appointment to meet at a specified time; especially : a social engagement between two persons that often has a romantic character”. According to the arrest affidavit and the statements of both females, they engaged in “sexual activities” on 3 separate occasions. This is not dating. If Smith’s parents were unaware, or simply opposed to this relationship, there would have been no “dates”. They would not have allowed it.
There are also a number of little things that I find bothersome. Minor details. Kaitlyn was 18 before school started. Why? Was she held back? Did she fail? I’m trying to wrap my mind around why an 18 is starting her senior year of high school. Most students are 17 when they start the senior year and turn 18 during the school year. Then there is the 14-year-old.
Why is a 14-year-old playing varsity basketball? I understand about being a superior athlete, but when you have a state statute that will prosecute anyone who has a sexual relationship with a person over 12 but under 16, how can you put these people in the same environment and think nothing will happen?
Why is she listed as a sophomore on the 2012-2013 roster for the basketball team, but her supposed age indicates she should be in her freshman year of high school. Was she moved up a grade? If so, did her parents not think of all the things that come with being among older children?
We would all like to think our children wouldn’t be sexually active in high school. We have forgotten, apparently, how we were as teenagers. We were walking, raging hormones trapped somewhere between “still a kid” and “it is time to grow up and be an adult”.
The Hunts want Kate free. The Smith’s just seem to want the nightmare to end. As for me, I am still confused. My biggest hope is that the truth will come out in court because so far, I am not certain we have been given a whole lot of truth. I see two girls who were physically attracted to one another and they took advantage of it.
Did Kate manipulate the Smith girl? I don’t know. I don’t think anyone but Kate will ever know the truth of that. Did the girls have more than two trips to a bathroom stall and a night that should not have happened between them? These are not things listed on a police affidavit, but I would say if the girls did not actually “date” then probably not.
The Hunts have drummed up literally a world of support, but they want no mention of the “girlfriend” or her family. Why? Are they simply being respectful to a minor and her family or are they afraid people will speak to the young woman or her family and come away with more questions?
If the Hunt’s have misrepresented themselves and this situation, and garnered donations, it definitely puts a dark cloud over the entire situation. If they have used the LGBTQ community and the sympathies therein, they are not helping the community. They are hurting it and the generous people of not only their own community, but those struggling to be accepted as equals.
Updates will be added as they become available. Until then, we wait, we watch, and we try to navigate a minefield of what is the actual truth and what has been vague representations seemingly generated to cloud the issue.
The original story can be found here: http://tgvnews.com/2013/05/18-year-old-arrested-charged-and-expelled-for-whom-she-loved/